So I said I wanted to start an advice column section and thought about starting a forum for it but I think I would prefer to keep it simple and see how it goes. I’m not even sure how much interest or many questions this may receive. But as a result of the radio spot I did get one question recently and got permission to share it here. I wholeheartedly welcome more questions and or comments.  Feel free to email me at Mistress@SxySadist.com.

Hi SxySadist Suzanne,
I hope you are well. First off you were awesome on the Chaz and AJ show. You have a wonderful voice for radio and even though I did not see any of the webcam fun it sounded like you were enjoying yourself. I know that you are setting up a forum for questions, but I had a real quick one. How do I introduce a ball-gag into play for my girlfriend to use on me? She is not the kinkiest of girls but she does have a dominant/controlling side to her but I do not want her to think that I am taking things a little too extreme. Any suggestions on how to broach the topic? I think you should definitely do a kinky/ask the Domina podcast I think it would be really popular. Keep up the great work and take care. Thanks!

All the best,
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I responded directly to him with:

So it sounds to me like you two may have explored a little dominant / submissive play if she likes to be controlling.  If I wanted to introduce a “gag” to someone that might freak out about it .. I might try something less scary looking first .. like a knotted scarf something similar by explaining to her that it “would make me feel even more submissive and helpless if I couldn’t speak”  or “the thought of not being able to call for help really turns me on”  (insert your own best explanation here) and then pull the scarf out from somewhere close.  If she is cool with that … then a next time or couple weeks later you can maybe bring it to the next level.  If the scarf freaks her out .. then … well it was less scary looking than a REAL ball gag .. know what I mean?

He responded back to me that that sounded good to him and that he was going to try it this weekend. I am crossing my fingers for him and sending him lots of kinky good wishes! He promised to let me know how it goes! But while we are on the subject of gags, I would like to add a link to an article I wrote sometime ago about “Blindfolds and Gags” that I hope he and others may find helpful.

Update:
Hi Mz. Suzanne,
So last night I got to try out the scarf gag with my girlfriend so here is a little synopsis of the experience:

She walked into the bed room with a smirk on her face, she knew I liked to be tied up and she knew what the scarves lying next to me were for. She first decided that I should be blindfolded first, she took one scarf and put it over my eyes. She then proceeded to pull off my shirt and pants leaving me in my underwear. She then said, “Well we wouldn’t want you to get away now would we.” She then took two scarves and tied my bare feet together, after slowly running her fingers down my toes and soles she turned her attention to my hands. She tied up one hand with a scarf and then crossed the other hand over it. After securing me she began to tease me all over. I suggested while she was slightly tickling my ribs that maybe a gag was needed to keep me quiet. She replied, “Well we do not want to wake up the neighbors,” so with that she took a scarf and proceeded to a tie a secure cleave gag in my mouth. After that she proceeded to tickle torture me by attacking my feet and sides for several minutes while gagged. It was extremely hot to be tied up, gagged and being tickled all over, the gag added so much to the experience and I am pretty sure my girlfriend enjoyed hearing my muffled laughter too.

Thank you Mz Suzanne for your help on the gag situation so far, I think she definitely did not mind using a scarf to gag me with, I will have to gauge her reactions in the next few weeks, I may even see if she wants to hand gag me or place her foot over my mouth too(yes I do have a foot fetish too). I will keep you updated, I hope you enjoyed the short story.

Best,
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