So I have a little story to share with you today that made me incredibly happy this week. Not long ago a man in his early 70s approached me about doing a phone consult, and although not usually my favorite because I like live sessions so much better, I decided to do it. We chatted a bit about his interests and at some point he revealed to me that he is married, has been a long time and that his wife has no interest in sex. Sadly, she was never taught that women can enjoy sex and that if and when her husband decided he wanted it, then she would simply have to submit to it because it is her “wifely duty”. While some men wouldn’t care if she was having a good time or not and would have availed themselves of the opportunity regardless, my new friend instead kind of decided that wasn’t really going to work for him and so he stopped asking… for years!
I of course found this terribly sad for both of them and encouraged him to try talking to her again about it. I even suggested that maybe he try teaching her that she could enjoy sex under the right circumstances, and then specifically suggested he buy a “Hitachi Magic Wand” (yes I am name brand dropping here – it is a classic for a reason) <wink> Well a few weeks went by and I hadn’t heard back and I was actually thinking about checking in on him when I got this absolutely AMAZING message:
“A quick update. I can’t thank you enough. The Hitachi was a success. Each time we used it we made progress. After a couple times she began to experience the feelings of arousal. This was all new to her. She finally became comfortable enough to allow herself to enjoy the feelings without guilt or shame. A few days later it finally happened….Her first ever orgasm. Extremely intense!”
I literally cried tears of joy for this woman whom I have never met. To have finally had her first orgasm in her (I assume) 60s is remarkable!! I wrote back to him and told him how happy I was to hear that and asked if I could share their story here and he graciously replied…
“Oh PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do !!! I’m sure it will inspire many not to give up and keep trying. We had given up (I’m sure like most} figuring she simply wasn’t sexually interested or responsive. It’s a shame the years we wasted. I’m so glad you can rejoice with us. It was such an emotional event. We too cried tears of joy. Without your help it would never have happened. She hasn’t been able to cum from intercourse but time will tell.”
LOL I let him know that most women do not orgasm from intercourse because generally the right bits are simply not getting stimulated the right way, and that he needs to make sure she knows that is not her fault! I suggested they work on angles that would allow the vibrator in as a 3 way – lol. I just offered a few other suggestions as well that I hope they find helpful but I will spare you the details on that for now. G spot orgasms are a whole OTHER topic and will probably require a very different approach. <wink>
Needless to say I am still absolutely thrilled that a woman I have never and likely will never meet has had her first ever orgasm because of my advice. This definitely feels like “God’s work” to me and absolutely helps me know I am doing good things in the world. Thanks for letting me share.
