A few words about checklists and interests – I have been playing with the check lists of interests on Collar Me (a kink dating site) a bit but it is really tough sometimes to go through them and give quantitative responses to things without the context of who is doing it and what their skill level, demeanor or intention is when they are doing it.

There are so many things that I can enjoy under the “right” circumstances and with the “right” incentive depending on who is doing it and why, that I would not even consider tolerating from someone I do not trust or respect.  (and I must know in my heart I am respected and deeply cared for as well.) Face slapping and humiliation for example can be very hot and sexy in the heat of a moment and likely to send me into a rage in others. The questions is: “How good are you at reading the moment?  And can you admit when you read it wrong and handle or navigate the ensuing “storm”?” 

Part of what I enjoy most about the work of David Deida is how he explains the differences between masculine and feminine essences.  The feminine reacts to constantly shifting emotions which the masculine rarely understands fully, and the feminine can rarely comprehend how the masculine doesn’t just “know” how she feels intuitively the way she can easily read others. Opposites definitely attract and the more extreme the attraction, usually the more tendencies there is for heat, passion and fireworks as well as occasional storms and disagreements!  

Neutrality is bland, boring and predictable. I crave passion in my life and my love but my man needs to understand that trying to completely control a passionate feminine essence is like trying to control the ocean. If you can’t navigate your way around or through a storm or two now and then, you had better man the lifeboats!