About a week ago I received a lovely introductory email from a Daka (male Tantra healer) who works primarily with women, who was contacting me because he wanted to learn more about bondage and pain exploration as it relates to moving energy.  I was naturally more than a little intrigued!  I have met other “het” male practitioners over the years, but very few had any real interest in BDSM and Goddess knows I will take pretty much any opportunity to share rope with people .. especially sexually adventurous and spiritually aware people! 

I offered to meet with him “off the clock” for a relaxed exploration of whatever presented itself.  It was a glorious and delight – filled adventure that spanned approximately 6 hours in all. Yes he was handsome and had a great body, but it was more than his physical self that was attractive… it was his presence.  He was completely in the moment with me as I demonstrated some rope basics for the first 2 hours or so. He was also a very quick study and explained he had had previous rope experience in another capacity which made him quite comfortable with it both in bondage and handling it. But mostly I kept the lessons fairly academic… showing a tie .. letting him practice it, but not delving deep into the experience. I showed him about all he could absorb for one day and we took a bit of a break. 

He was really easy to talk to and I gave me the feeling that I could be open and honest with him so I shared with him about some thing that had been causing me some emotional distress recently and he gave me space to vent and hurt and then offered to do some energy massage work with me. I readily agreed and lay down on my sheepskin and surrendered to his touch.  He was absolutely amazing and I  luxuriated in the warm touch of his skilled hands,  lost in blissful and delightful sensations for nearly 2 hours! I truly wish that everyone could experience that sort of bliss at least once in their lives. 🙂

Afterwards I felt renewed and more content than I had for a few weeks and maybe a bit turned on as well and so I decided to throw some rope on my new friend and give him a little bit more intimate look at what I love about rope.  😀 He did well! He is very strong and flexible and he knows how to breathe and dig down to his core for strength and endurance and although I probably was a bit easier on him than need be and stayed at a rather surface level of play .. I had a very good time with that introduction and I think he did too.  I tried a fairly challenging predicament bondage on him and a partial suspension and a bit of a cross limb hog tie sort of thing all mixed in with some sensual and not so sensual touch.   I also made sure to send him home with a couple of cane strikes as a souvenir since his lovely rope marks were fading far too quickly.

We have both agreed that we would enjoy getting together again, I only wish he wasn’t 2.5 hours away. <sigh>  Ahh well, something to look forward to.  In the meantime .. he is a link to his website: Tantrika Lover.  I highly reccomend his services.  🙂